KUWAIT: A student might be excellent in academic subjects but might not excel in their practical life or artistic skills. On the other hand, another student may not have high academic abilities but possess outstanding talents in other areas. With the upcoming exam period, Kuwait Times sheds light on the issue of parents scolding their children who may not be able to achieve the highest grades. Many students are subjected to severe punishment for obtaining grades that are average or just good, even though this may be the student’s academic capability over which they have no control.
“Support their needs and allow their potential to flourish. Avoid suffocating them with your own fears and aspirations. Instead, let them blossom into unique individuals.” With these words, high school teacher Mohammed Al-Ansari emphasized that parents’ focus should not solely be on grades and academic performance alone.
Ansari said many parents have a predetermined path for their children, disregarding their preferences. Ansari has observed this frequently in his 11th grade science class, where most students struggle or lack interest in scientific subjects, yet excel in Arabic, English, geography and other areas. “It seems as though they are being pushed towards a future that is not their own, but a manifestation of their parents’ unfulfilled aspirations. It is quite heartbreaking to be honest,” he stressed.
Many people and students may believe that teachers prefer students with high grades, which can cause those who are unable to achieve high grades to feel frustrated and desperate, besides extra pressure from the parents. This was pointed out by Reem Fares, a mother who explained that with a rise in their grades, students receive more attention from teachers. “We make sure our children are among those who receive the most attention, and we emphasize to our children to catch their teacher’s attention through their grades,” she said.
However, Ansari emphasized on good manners over good grades. “Personally, I value a well-behaved student more than one with poor manners. I am inclined to give higher grades to students who show respect,” he said. “I would like to urge parents to spend quality time with their own flesh and blood. Show them that you care and take the time to understand their interests and dislikes. Support their needs and allow their potential to flourish. Avoid suffocating them with your own fears and aspirations. Instead, let them blossom into unique individuals,” he advised.