By Ghadeer Ghloum
KUWAIT: Household chores have been associated with women for ages, to the point where many people believe it is a woman’s natural job. Only few recognize that doing house chores is a favor that women provide to whoever they are living with, and it is not something to be taken for granted. Zainab Patwa, senior content editor for a market research company, told Kuwait Times the issue of gender roles and household responsibilities has been a longstanding conflict that has yet to be fully resolved. Historically, men were traditionally expected to be the sole breadwinners, while women were assigned household chores and caregiving responsibilities.
These roles were reinforced by societal norms and cultural beliefs, which have been passed down through generations. However, with the rise of feminism, women are now encouraged to participate in the workforce and share financial responsibilities. Despite this progress, women continue to shoulder a disproportionate burden of household chores and caregiving, along with taking care of financial responsibilities. This is not appreciated, and women are expected to carry on with all these responsibilities due to cultural or familial norms or simply out of habit or convenience.
The responsibility on men, on the other hand, remains unchanged, which is to be the breadwinner. Thus, every little contribution by them is glorified, which is what needs to be changed. Patwa said it is also evident that men today are displaying compassion and actively taking steps to support women in achieving their goals and maintaining a healthy work-life balance. But unfortunately, these men often face societal pressure and criticism for deviating from traditional norms of masculinity. This indicates that societal expectations still hold significant influence and can hinder the pace of change.
"In my personal belief, society plays a crucial role in driving change on this issue, but progress has been slow. Men who defy traditional gender roles and demonstrate empathy and support for women should be commended rather than bullied. It is important for society to recognize that everyone, regardless of gender, should have the freedom to pursue their aspirations and contribute to household responsibilities in a way that aligns with their individual strengths and abilities,” Patwa said.
With regards to women’s freedom of choice, Patwa said women have the freedom to make choices regarding their career and household responsibilities, but they often face harsh criticism, particularly in Asian societies. For instance, if a woman decides to prioritize her role as a homemaker, she may be judged for not being career-oriented enough. On the other hand, if she focuses on her career, she may face criticism for neglecting her household duties and losing touch with her femininity. Even if a woman tries to balance both responsibilities, she may be criticized for not being efficient enough. These judgments are often subtle, hidden in snide comments, eyerolls and smirks.
Additionally, Patwa highlighted the issue of defining women with their work at home. "We define women on how efficient she is with her work at home, especially in Asian societies, which I personally believe needs to change. In today’s world, it is important to recognize and respect the choices that women make regarding their careers and household responsibilities without subjecting them to undue scrutiny,” she said.
Women should have the freedom to choose whether to stay at home or work outside without facing societal judgment. There should be no shame associated with staying at home, as it is a challenging and honorable role that is often underappreciated. It is a labor of love that deserves recognition. Similarly, women should not face shame or criticism for choosing to work outside the home or balance both work and household responsibilities.
Every woman has the right to live life on her own terms, with her own individuality and choices. Men are increasingly taking active steps to support women in achieving their goals and finding contentment, whether it’s as a stay-at-home parent or an entrepreneur. This positive shift in attitudes and behaviors is commendable and should be encouraged. However, the real challenge lies in transforming society as a whole to fully embrace gender equality.